Couldn't Help Myself--The Last of the Fall Color

The Grove was just beautiful earlier this month as the leaves changed colors. I took so many photos, and I've only shared a tiny selection here. So here are 2 more that I thought were particularly entrancing. The first was taken at one of my favorite resting spots along the southeast side of the lake. The second is just a spot on a trail way over on the other side of the lake.

All this color is gone now, of course. I went walking yesterday and took new photos, and I'll post those next.

Couldn't Help Myself--The Last of the Fall Color

The Grove was just beautiful earlier this month as the leaves changed colors. I took so many photos, and I've only shared a tiny selection here. So here are 2 more that I thought were particularly entrancing. The first was taken at one of my favorite resting spots along the southeast side of the lake. The second is just a spot on a trail way over on the other side of the lake.

All this color is gone now, of course. I went walking yesterday and took new photos, and I'll post those next.

Happy Birthday IDiosyntocracy--and A Day to Be Thankful

Today marks 1 year since I started my humble little blog, and I'm quite pleased I've made it this far.

THANK YOU to everyone who has visited and posted as well as all those secret readers out there--you know who you are!

This blog was started as a new creative outlet for me, a way to explore spirituality, politics, sex, writing and everyday rants.
It's also been a way to share those things that are nearest and dearest to me, those things that make life wonderful.

With that in mind, here's what I'm thankful for on this particular Thanksgiving Day:

1. My family and partner
2. My home and the land surrounding it
3. A stable job and new writing opportunities
4. Friends who allow me to be myself
5. A great country where we can express our opinions and individuality
6. My health and good fortune
7. Peace and relative harmony where I live
8. For another day to wonder at the world
9. All of you out there--and--
10. The Internet!
    

Enjoy your day, and I hope you find yourself surrounded by loved ones.

Happy Birthday IDiosyntocracy--and A Day to Be Thankful

Today marks 1 year since I started my humble little blog, and I'm quite pleased I've made it this far.

THANK YOU to everyone who has visited and posted as well as all those secret readers out there--you know who you are!

This blog was started as a new creative outlet for me, a way to explore spirituality, politics, sex, writing and everyday rants.
It's also been a way to share those things that are nearest and dearest to me, those things that make life wonderful.

With that in mind, here's what I'm thankful for on this particular Thanksgiving Day:

1. My family and partner
2. My home and the land surrounding it
3. A stable job and new writing opportunities
4. Friends who allow me to be myself
5. A great country where we can express our opinions and individuality
6. My health and good fortune
7. Peace and relative harmony where I live
8. For another day to wonder at the world
9. All of you out there--and--
10. The Internet!
    

Enjoy your day, and I hope you find yourself surrounded by loved ones.

Has Anyone Seen My Dildo?!

If your sensibilities are just too delicate, well, read no further. But I have a dilemma.

My partner is going out of town to see his family for the holidays, which means I'll have 2 ENTIRE DAYS to myself! Sweet Lord in Heaven, I cannot wait. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, eat whatever, stay up late. Hmmm, maybe I'll just stay inside and masturbate all day!

Hey--don't judge. It's been a rough year since his stroke, and besides, a guy's got to get action somehow!

So I went looking for the dildo ... just in case. And it's nowhere to be found! Truth be told, it hasn't seen the light of day in a while, and I don't really even remember where we put it. I do know it was somewhere "safe" so that no one would inadvertently discover it. I looked in all the usual places, but now I'm worried.

Judge if you will, but geez, I had plans! And now I'm afraid it will unexpectedly roll out of the china cabinet during Thanksgiving! I'll be sure to post if that happens.

Has Anyone Seen My Dildo?!

If your sensibilities are just too delicate, well, read no further. But I have a dilemma.

My partner is going out of town to see his family for the holidays, which means I'll have 2 ENTIRE DAYS to myself! Sweet Lord in Heaven, I cannot wait. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, eat whatever, stay up late. Hmmm, maybe I'll just stay inside and masturbate all day!

Hey--don't judge. It's been a rough year since his stroke, and besides, a guy's got to get action somehow!

So I went looking for the dildo ... just in case. And it's nowhere to be found! Truth be told, it hasn't seen the light of day in a while, and I don't really even remember where we put it. I do know it was somewhere "safe" so that no one would inadvertently discover it. I looked in all the usual places, but now I'm worried.

Judge if you will, but geez, I had plans! And now I'm afraid it will unexpectedly roll out of the china cabinet during Thanksgiving! I'll be sure to post if that happens.

Send a Postcard, Flick a Switch and More for Equality

I just mailed my own postcard for gay equality to President-elect Barack Obama, asking him to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act and the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy of gays in the armed forces. Civil Rights Front is asking everyone to join Project Postcard in support of equality for the LGBT community. Check the site for more info--and you can even post a photo of you and your postcard if you like.

There's even more! Blue For Equality is asking everyone to display a blue light in your porch, window or storefront in support of gay equality. The site includes a national map so you can see how many people in your own area have agreed to shine the light. California activists are hoping to light up several state city halls as a sign of support.

There are even more ways to express your opinion and support at Join the Impact.

Send a Postcard, Flick a Switch and More for Equality

I just mailed my own postcard for gay equality to President-elect Barack Obama, asking him to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act and the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy of gays in the armed forces. Civil Rights Front is asking everyone to join Project Postcard in support of equality for the LGBT community. Check the site for more info--and you can even post a photo of you and your postcard if you like.

There's even more! Blue For Equality is asking everyone to display a blue light in your porch, window or storefront in support of gay equality. The site includes a national map so you can see how many people in your own area have agreed to shine the light. California activists are hoping to light up several state city halls as a sign of support.

There are even more ways to express your opinion and support at Join the Impact.

Anti-Gay Bigots in Florida Get the Smackdown Over Adoption

I just love "activist judges," to borrow a phrase from the conservatives. A 31-year-old law banning adoption by gay couples or individuals in Florida has been overturned!

If people want to adopt and they meet the requirements, they should be allowed to provide a loving home. Does anyone ask what heterosexuals do in their bedrooms? Is that a qualification for being a parent?

Oh sure, the other side will appeal--but this sure is getting interesting!

Anti-Gay Bigots in Florida Get the Smackdown Over Adoption

I just love "activist judges," to borrow a phrase from the conservatives. A 31-year-old law banning adoption by gay couples or individuals in Florida has been overturned!

If people want to adopt and they meet the requirements, they should be allowed to provide a loving home. Does anyone ask what heterosexuals do in their bedrooms? Is that a qualification for being a parent?

Oh sure, the other side will appeal--but this sure is getting interesting!

Hell on Earth for Gays: Burundi

Not that it's on your must-see list (like Utah), but if you think California or whichever state has now outlawed gay marriage is bad, try the war-torn African nation of Burundi. It outlawed the death penalty but also criminalized homosexuality which, according to one report, used to be tolerated. What--are gays suddenly running amok?

Sure, Burundi is far away, but let's not get complacent people!

And for those who don't think gays have suffered much, consider this report about why Britain decriminalized homosexuality back in the 1950s:

"The law's function is to preserve public order and decency, to protect the citizen from what is offensive or injurious, and to provide sufficient safeguards against exploitation and corruption of others. Not, in our view, the function of the law to intervene in the private life of citizens, or to seek to enforce any particular pattern of behaviour."

I can't even imagine living my life like a criminal--and don't ever want to. So on Thanksgiving, let's be thankful!

Hell on Earth for Gays: Burundi

Not that it's on your must-see list (like Utah), but if you think California or whichever state has now outlawed gay marriage is bad, try the war-torn African nation of Burundi. It outlawed the death penalty but also criminalized homosexuality which, according to one report, used to be tolerated. What--are gays suddenly running amok?

Sure, Burundi is far away, but let's not get complacent people!

And for those who don't think gays have suffered much, consider this report about why Britain decriminalized homosexuality back in the 1950s:

"The law's function is to preserve public order and decency, to protect the citizen from what is offensive or injurious, and to provide sufficient safeguards against exploitation and corruption of others. Not, in our view, the function of the law to intervene in the private life of citizens, or to seek to enforce any particular pattern of behaviour."

I can't even imagine living my life like a criminal--and don't ever want to. So on Thanksgiving, let's be thankful!

Are You Joining the Mormon/Utah Boycott?

You've probably heard that in the wake of Prop 8's passage, many gay activists are calling for a boycott of any businesses connected to individuals who supported the measure. We can debate the effectiveness of boycotts all day, but I support them more as a matter of personal growth. If you can stick one out, you learn a lot about yourself and your habits, and I adhere to Socrates' maxim: "An unexamined life is not worth living."

But I may sit this one out and here's why. From the lists of Prop 8 supporters that I've seen, like this one, most of the business serve only California, and I happen to be on the other side of the country. No much I can do there.

There's also a call to boycott the entire state of Utah since it's so heavily Mormon. Honestly, that seems a bit unfair. The state itself didn't have anything to do with this. And there are gays in Utah, too (my condolences), and perfectly welcoming heteros. But again, I live on the East Coast, so Utah isn't on my list of must-visits at the moment. One, I can't afford it, and if I were to attempt snow skiing ever again (that bunny slope was out to get me!), then I can do so much closer to home.

There are a few corporations, however, that I could potentially boycott. The CEO of movie chain Cinemark contributed almost $10,000 to support Prop 8. There's a Cinemark theater near me, but--sad to say--I rarely go out to the movies anymore. So boycotting Cinemark really isn't a big sacrifice for me, and if you're going to boycott something, it should hurt!

Speaking of pain, the real deal may be to boycott Marriott Hotels. I've known the Marriott family is Mormon for a while (why do you think the Book of Mormon is always found in the nightstand along with the Bible?). The company itself didn't support Prop 8, but some activists say Marriott family members did. Here's where it would get tough. I love Marriott Hotels and all its brands. My partner and I have Marriott Rewards Points and, as much as possible, are loyal customers.

Here's where it gets interesting. Marriott has a great diversity program and a highly favorable rating from most national gay rights organizations. The Marriott CEO also wrote a letter supporting the gay community.
Keep in mind that most hotels are franchises and locally owned, so a boycott could backfire on people who may actually support us.

On a personal note, I already booked 2 nights at a Fairfield Inn (Marriott brand) for New Year's Eve. My partner and I desperately need a change of scenery, and if it weren't for our Marriott Points, we wouldn't be able to afford it. Our room will be free. So if I stick to the boycott, I would have to stay home. But we need a weekend away from the distractions of home and work in order to focus on each other.

So there you have it. Call me a traitor, but I'm sitting this boycott out. I'll find other ways to make my anger over Prop 8 known. Where do you stand?

Are You Joining the Mormon/Utah Boycott?

You've probably heard that in the wake of Prop 8's passage, many gay activists are calling for a boycott of any businesses connected to individuals who supported the measure. We can debate the effectiveness of boycotts all day, but I support them more as a matter of personal growth. If you can stick one out, you learn a lot about yourself and your habits, and I adhere to Socrates' maxim: "An unexamined life is not worth living."

But I may sit this one out and here's why. From the lists of Prop 8 supporters that I've seen, like this one, most of the business serve only California, and I happen to be on the other side of the country. No much I can do there.

There's also a call to boycott the entire state of Utah since it's so heavily Mormon. Honestly, that seems a bit unfair. The state itself didn't have anything to do with this. And there are gays in Utah, too (my condolences), and perfectly welcoming heteros. But again, I live on the East Coast, so Utah isn't on my list of must-visits at the moment. One, I can't afford it, and if I were to attempt snow skiing ever again (that bunny slope was out to get me!), then I can do so much closer to home.

There are a few corporations, however, that I could potentially boycott. The CEO of movie chain Cinemark contributed almost $10,000 to support Prop 8. There's a Cinemark theater near me, but--sad to say--I rarely go out to the movies anymore. So boycotting Cinemark really isn't a big sacrifice for me, and if you're going to boycott something, it should hurt!

Speaking of pain, the real deal may be to boycott Marriott Hotels. I've known the Marriott family is Mormon for a while (why do you think the Book of Mormon is always found in the nightstand along with the Bible?). The company itself didn't support Prop 8, but some activists say Marriott family members did. Here's where it would get tough. I love Marriott Hotels and all its brands. My partner and I have Marriott Rewards Points and, as much as possible, are loyal customers.

Here's where it gets interesting. Marriott has a great diversity program and a highly favorable rating from most national gay rights organizations. The Marriott CEO also wrote a letter supporting the gay community.
Keep in mind that most hotels are franchises and locally owned, so a boycott could backfire on people who may actually support us.

On a personal note, I already booked 2 nights at a Fairfield Inn (Marriott brand) for New Year's Eve. My partner and I desperately need a change of scenery, and if it weren't for our Marriott Points, we wouldn't be able to afford it. Our room will be free. So if I stick to the boycott, I would have to stay home. But we need a weekend away from the distractions of home and work in order to focus on each other.

So there you have it. Call me a traitor, but I'm sitting this boycott out. I'll find other ways to make my anger over Prop 8 known. Where do you stand?

Can Shamanism Help Your Sex Life?

(both "Desert Shaman" photos by Greg Day)

I haven't posted about any shamanic work lately. No workshop this month, or for the next 2, but I have conducted a few solo journeys. But nothing too dramatic or insightful to report. I'm attempting to journey more frequently and explore this path more deeply, however. Some may consider what I do crazy, but I'm always at peace after a journey and, in general, these experiences allow me to explore parts of my spirit that are too often neglected.

Made time for 2 journeys this weekend, and I wanted to experiment and see what would occur if I journeyed with a specific goal in mind. The last couple of journeys were a bit frustrating since my mind kept wandering and not much "happened." So, here's where the sex comes in. My partner and I still haven't been intimate in a long while. We were going to couple's counseling, but we've had to put that on hold for financial reasons. So there's been some discussion about sex but not enough to make any difference.

And the lack of sex is becoming a real problem. At this point, I'm open to any solution, but my partner doesn't seem all that concerned either way. I know there are any number of ways to handle this in the real world--but I wanted to see what insights I might get on a shamanic journey. Why not? I wanted to see what my subconscious would cough up, what images and metaphors might tumble out if I could trick my everyday defenses.

In order to do so, I decided to conduct a Lowerworld journey and work there with my spirit guides Wolf and Vulture. Hopefully they would guide me to some insights.

I won't give too many details about the journeys themselves since they were quite similar and relatively short. I followed my usual approach, a drumming CD playing with me lying on the floor of a dark room. I began the journey by entering the woods here at my home and going to the Circle in the Grove. There's a fallen tree nearby, and some small animal has dug out a burrow there. So I kneel down and shimmy inside.

The Lowerworld landscape is familiar: lush, green hills barren of trees but shrouded in fog and marked here and there with large rocks and boulders. Very much like the photo here, of Ireland (photo below by Donncha Caoimh).

My first journey was a little freaky kinky at first. As soon as I emerged, I began to shift into wolf form, and then my spirit wolf appeared nearby from among some trees. We approached each other and began to circle and sniff--as if we were about to have wild wolf sex! But wait a minute, I thought, is this "supposed" to be happening? Am I doing this right? And, whoa, is this bestiality?

Well, I never got to find out because my partner interrupted by knocking on the door and asking for something.

First Lesson: I need to politely ask him not to knock if the door's closed and remind him that it is frustrating when these sessions get interrupted like that. But I also learned that I could have simply ignored his knock. Instead I opened the door and acted like nothing was wrong. Why? Because I'm insecure of what he thinks about my shamanic work. I'm also fearful of what he would say if I explained it all in great detail. And I was also afraid of an argument. It's obvious that I do need to ask more for what I need, whether that's time to journey uninterrupted--or sex. I know this, of course, but to ask for sex doesn't necessarily lead to it. Yet I can certainly ask more. If nothing else, it would force this issue more out into the open.

Which is where it needs to be. Our relationship won't last much longer if we keep sweeping all these sexual issues under the rug.

Fortunately on the second journey, I wasn't interrupted. I had plenty of time in the morning before he woke up. As I entered the Lowerworld, however, I sensed great impatience within. This time I didn't shapeshift but sat quietly the ground. Wolf approached silently and sat, and Vulture also flew down to land on a nearby boulder. All was silent, yet I shared with them my spiritual and emotional fatigue. This weary shaman needed strength.

Then it occurred to me to dance. Wolf and Vulture moved back, and I rose and began to engage in the coolest, wildest dance. I stomped and spun, and I could see I was wearing some sort of arm bands and anklets made of long strands of grass. I wore one around my neck, too. I was naked (as usual) except for some sort of grassy covering around my waist.

Best of all were the emotions. If felt great to extend my body in this way, to follow the CD drumbeat, to bend and stretch and move. As I danced, Wolf and Vulture moved around me clockwise in a circle. I felt free as I danced, not ashamed of my body or of exposing it. I felt strong and handsome and sexual.

And then it was time to end. Second Lesson: I somehow need to find confidence in myself sexually, physically, emotionally. Oh sure, piece of cake. I know these lessons and experiences are all telling me what I already know, but it's good to have this affirmed in a roundabout way, when I'm not expecting it or necessarily even thinking about them.

So how do I build sexual confidence and strength? I mean, it's kind of embarrassing to even ask that question. Our society tells us we're supposed to know it all, right? Sex is such a powerful force and most of us are so lacking in how to use it well and wisely. I don't want this sexual frustration to win. I want to channel that energy to make things better somehow, if possible. It sounds odd to admit, but I need to work on my sexuality. And no, I can't afford any fancy workshops or counseling. Instead, I'm going to have dig deep inside and see what I'm made of, on my own, at least to start.

Has anyone else out there done any sexual work like this or found a particularly spiritual approach to handling sexual energy?

Can Shamanism Help Your Sex Life?

(both "Desert Shaman" photos by Greg Day)

I haven't posted about any shamanic work lately. No workshop this month, or for the next 2, but I have conducted a few solo journeys. But nothing too dramatic or insightful to report. I'm attempting to journey more frequently and explore this path more deeply, however. Some may consider what I do crazy, but I'm always at peace after a journey and, in general, these experiences allow me to explore parts of my spirit that are too often neglected.

Made time for 2 journeys this weekend, and I wanted to experiment and see what would occur if I journeyed with a specific goal in mind. The last couple of journeys were a bit frustrating since my mind kept wandering and not much "happened." So, here's where the sex comes in. My partner and I still haven't been intimate in a long while. We were going to couple's counseling, but we've had to put that on hold for financial reasons. So there's been some discussion about sex but not enough to make any difference.

And the lack of sex is becoming a real problem. At this point, I'm open to any solution, but my partner doesn't seem all that concerned either way. I know there are any number of ways to handle this in the real world--but I wanted to see what insights I might get on a shamanic journey. Why not? I wanted to see what my subconscious would cough up, what images and metaphors might tumble out if I could trick my everyday defenses.

In order to do so, I decided to conduct a Lowerworld journey and work there with my spirit guides Wolf and Vulture. Hopefully they would guide me to some insights.

I won't give too many details about the journeys themselves since they were quite similar and relatively short. I followed my usual approach, a drumming CD playing with me lying on the floor of a dark room. I began the journey by entering the woods here at my home and going to the Circle in the Grove. There's a fallen tree nearby, and some small animal has dug out a burrow there. So I kneel down and shimmy inside.

The Lowerworld landscape is familiar: lush, green hills barren of trees but shrouded in fog and marked here and there with large rocks and boulders. Very much like the photo here, of Ireland (photo below by Donncha Caoimh).

My first journey was a little freaky kinky at first. As soon as I emerged, I began to shift into wolf form, and then my spirit wolf appeared nearby from among some trees. We approached each other and began to circle and sniff--as if we were about to have wild wolf sex! But wait a minute, I thought, is this "supposed" to be happening? Am I doing this right? And, whoa, is this bestiality?

Well, I never got to find out because my partner interrupted by knocking on the door and asking for something.

First Lesson: I need to politely ask him not to knock if the door's closed and remind him that it is frustrating when these sessions get interrupted like that. But I also learned that I could have simply ignored his knock. Instead I opened the door and acted like nothing was wrong. Why? Because I'm insecure of what he thinks about my shamanic work. I'm also fearful of what he would say if I explained it all in great detail. And I was also afraid of an argument. It's obvious that I do need to ask more for what I need, whether that's time to journey uninterrupted--or sex. I know this, of course, but to ask for sex doesn't necessarily lead to it. Yet I can certainly ask more. If nothing else, it would force this issue more out into the open.

Which is where it needs to be. Our relationship won't last much longer if we keep sweeping all these sexual issues under the rug.

Fortunately on the second journey, I wasn't interrupted. I had plenty of time in the morning before he woke up. As I entered the Lowerworld, however, I sensed great impatience within. This time I didn't shapeshift but sat quietly the ground. Wolf approached silently and sat, and Vulture also flew down to land on a nearby boulder. All was silent, yet I shared with them my spiritual and emotional fatigue. This weary shaman needed strength.

Then it occurred to me to dance. Wolf and Vulture moved back, and I rose and began to engage in the coolest, wildest dance. I stomped and spun, and I could see I was wearing some sort of arm bands and anklets made of long strands of grass. I wore one around my neck, too. I was naked (as usual) except for some sort of grassy covering around my waist.

Best of all were the emotions. If felt great to extend my body in this way, to follow the CD drumbeat, to bend and stretch and move. As I danced, Wolf and Vulture moved around me clockwise in a circle. I felt free as I danced, not ashamed of my body or of exposing it. I felt strong and handsome and sexual.

And then it was time to end. Second Lesson: I somehow need to find confidence in myself sexually, physically, emotionally. Oh sure, piece of cake. I know these lessons and experiences are all telling me what I already know, but it's good to have this affirmed in a roundabout way, when I'm not expecting it or necessarily even thinking about them.

So how do I build sexual confidence and strength? I mean, it's kind of embarrassing to even ask that question. Our society tells us we're supposed to know it all, right? Sex is such a powerful force and most of us are so lacking in how to use it well and wisely. I don't want this sexual frustration to win. I want to channel that energy to make things better somehow, if possible. It sounds odd to admit, but I need to work on my sexuality. And no, I can't afford any fancy workshops or counseling. Instead, I'm going to have dig deep inside and see what I'm made of, on my own, at least to start.

Has anyone else out there done any sexual work like this or found a particularly spiritual approach to handling sexual energy?

Wear the White Knot for Marriage Equality

Add this to your site and help spread the word!

Wear the White Knot for Marriage Equality

Add this to your site and help spread the word!

The First Snow!

It was just like being a kid again. Seeing as how I'm trying to avoid all the bad news these days, I really haven't been paying attention to any news, including the weather. But I woke up to--surprise--a winter wonderland with the season's first snow! It wasn't all that much and it will most likely melt before the end of the day, but I always enjoy a visit from Jack Frost.

The First Snow!

It was just like being a kid again. Seeing as how I'm trying to avoid all the bad news these days, I really haven't been paying attention to any news, including the weather. But I woke up to--surprise--a winter wonderland with the season's first snow! It wasn't all that much and it will most likely melt before the end of the day, but I always enjoy a visit from Jack Frost.

Puerto Rican Governor Supports Nondiscrimination While California Court to Review Prop 8

No, this fine piece of manhood is not the governor but he is Puerto Rican actor Amaury Nolasco, also known as Fernando in "Prison Break." Thought I would honor the island and its news with a nibbly pic of Amaury.

So the island's governor has extended certain rights to gays and lesbians--however, a fight is expected with incoming governor-elect Luis Fortuno. 'Natch, there's also pending legislation to define marriage on the island as only between a man and woman. Watch this to get dragged into our larger cultural war.

Meanwhile, the California Supreme Court will hear 3 lawsuits brought by same-sex couples as a result of Prop 8. And opponents are already threatening the judges with a recall.

This ain't over yet! I also hope to post soon on other activities and initiatives that have sprung up as a result of the reinvigorated rights movement. Cheers.

Puerto Rican Governor Supports Nondiscrimination While California Court to Review Prop 8

No, this fine piece of manhood is not the governor but he is Puerto Rican actor Amaury Nolasco, also known as Fernando in "Prison Break." Thought I would honor the island and its news with a nibbly pic of Amaury.

So the island's governor has extended certain rights to gays and lesbians--however, a fight is expected with incoming governor-elect Luis Fortuno. 'Natch, there's also pending legislation to define marriage on the island as only between a man and woman. Watch this to get dragged into our larger cultural war.

Meanwhile, the California Supreme Court will hear 3 lawsuits brought by same-sex couples as a result of Prop 8. And opponents are already threatening the judges with a recall.

This ain't over yet! I also hope to post soon on other activities and initiatives that have sprung up as a result of the reinvigorated rights movement. Cheers.

Brazilian Guys Bust a Move With "Creu" Dance Craze

You'd never get American guys to dance like this! Leave it to Brazilian boys to be comfortable enough with their bodies and their sexuality to have some fun. Sure, the girls do it, too, but the guys seem to particularly enjoy it if the proliferation of YouTube videos is any indication. Here's one at what looks like an amateur dance competition with 2 hot guys named Rafael and Diogo.

This "Danca do Creu" was created by MC Creu and apparently swept Brazil by storm over the last year. Sort of like the "Macarena" and "The Electric Slide"--just a whole lot sexier. The song is a bit annoying, but it's fun to watch. And the lyrics? Basically, it's something like 5 ways to shake it faster and faster!

Ah, Brazil.....

Brazilian Guys Bust a Move With "Creu" Dance Craze

You'd never get American guys to dance like this! Leave it to Brazilian boys to be comfortable enough with their bodies and their sexuality to have some fun. Sure, the girls do it, too, but the guys seem to particularly enjoy it if the proliferation of YouTube videos is any indication. Here's one at what looks like an amateur dance competition with 2 hot guys named Rafael and Diogo.

This "Danca do Creu" was created by MC Creu and apparently swept Brazil by storm over the last year. Sort of like the "Macarena" and "The Electric Slide"--just a whole lot sexier. The song is a bit annoying, but it's fun to watch. And the lyrics? Basically, it's something like 5 ways to shake it faster and faster!

Ah, Brazil.....

Good News on a Monday: Nepal Says Gays Are People Too! (are you listening America?)

Nepal has just granted full rights to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersexual citizens (via Queers United). It says we're "natural" (gasp!), and the country is also exploring granting full marriage equality.

It's reassuring to see Nepal join the handful of other countries around the world that apparently value rights more than the good ol' USA. I guess we'll catch up someday.

Good News on a Monday: Nepal Says Gays Are People Too! (are you listening America?)

Nepal has just granted full rights to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersexual citizens (via Queers United). It says we're "natural" (gasp!), and the country is also exploring granting full marriage equality.

It's reassuring to see Nepal join the handful of other countries around the world that apparently value rights more than the good ol' USA. I guess we'll catch up someday.

How a Vulture Told Me It Was OK to Go to the Local Gay Rights Rally

Not much time, gotta be brief! I headed into town yesterday for what turned out to be a great and peaceful rally (I like that better than "protest" now) for gay rights. We had about 250 people there. I rode in with a friend and was happy to bump into a few other friends that I haven't seen in a while. We had a professional drumming group which kept the energy going, and there was a good mix of people. I was especially happy to see some African Americans there, to counter the growing impression that this is a "white gay" issue. There were several speakers, one of whom was a black straight man, and he gave a really good speech to help unite us going forward.


Oh, the vulture thing? On a spiritual note, it was interesting that my post the other day about chaos and energy seemed to be physically manifesting! I woke very early to see lots of storm clouds and very blustery conditions. On my walk, I saw two vultures sitting way up in a nearby electrical tower. (The vulture is another of my spirit totems.) As the wind would pick up, they would open up their wings as if to say, "Ah--feel that breeze!" Maybe they were just trying to keep their balance, but it was a reassuring image. Symbolically, vultures are known for their flight skills, their ability to use energy. Hmmmm.

So if the vultures can just hang on and enjoy the breeze, maybe I can learn from that. It seemed to fit with all the storms in other areas of my life right now, as well as the reinvigorated gay rights movement.

And although there were fears of rain and thunderstorms, everything soon cleared and we had an unseasonably warm and beautiful day. Sometimes those risks pay off if we don't let our fears overwhelm us!

So, now what? Well, I'm not exactly sure but stay tuned!

How a Vulture Told Me It Was OK to Go to the Local Gay Rights Rally

Not much time, gotta be brief! I headed into town yesterday for what turned out to be a great and peaceful rally (I like that better than "protest" now) for gay rights. We had about 250 people there. I rode in with a friend and was happy to bump into a few other friends that I haven't seen in a while. We had a professional drumming group which kept the energy going, and there was a good mix of people. I was especially happy to see some African Americans there, to counter the growing impression that this is a "white gay" issue. There were several speakers, one of whom was a black straight man, and he gave a really good speech to help unite us going forward.


Oh, the vulture thing? On a spiritual note, it was interesting that my post the other day about chaos and energy seemed to be physically manifesting! I woke very early to see lots of storm clouds and very blustery conditions. On my walk, I saw two vultures sitting way up in a nearby electrical tower. (The vulture is another of my spirit totems.) As the wind would pick up, they would open up their wings as if to say, "Ah--feel that breeze!" Maybe they were just trying to keep their balance, but it was a reassuring image. Symbolically, vultures are known for their flight skills, their ability to use energy. Hmmmm.

So if the vultures can just hang on and enjoy the breeze, maybe I can learn from that. It seemed to fit with all the storms in other areas of my life right now, as well as the reinvigorated gay rights movement.

And although there were fears of rain and thunderstorms, everything soon cleared and we had an unseasonably warm and beautiful day. Sometimes those risks pay off if we don't let our fears overwhelm us!

So, now what? Well, I'm not exactly sure but stay tuned!

Send Some Good Energy My Way on Saturday! I'm Protesting Prop 8!

Blessed be the wonders of Facebook and twentysomethings! Not only have the nationwide protests spread in roughly one week as a result on one young woman's web site, but a protest is scheduled for Saturday even here in my little corner of the world! It helps to have a university nearby with passionate college students. The person who is organizing the local protest is a recent college grad who has never even done anything like this before. That's great, because it shows this movement is really coming from the grassroots, and the gay rights cause needs an injection of fresh blood right now.

There may even be an event near you tomorrow or in the following week. Check here to find your state.

So whether you pray, meditate, chant or dance naked under the moon, send your positive thoughts and energy out to this nation, to all the protesters--even to those who disagree with us--so that this movement will lead us forward for the good of all.

I'll let you know how it goes!

Send Some Good Energy My Way on Saturday! I'm Protesting Prop 8!

Blessed be the wonders of Facebook and twentysomethings! Not only have the nationwide protests spread in roughly one week as a result on one young woman's web site, but a protest is scheduled for Saturday even here in my little corner of the world! It helps to have a university nearby with passionate college students. The person who is organizing the local protest is a recent college grad who has never even done anything like this before. That's great, because it shows this movement is really coming from the grassroots, and the gay rights cause needs an injection of fresh blood right now.

There may even be an event near you tomorrow or in the following week. Check here to find your state.

So whether you pray, meditate, chant or dance naked under the moon, send your positive thoughts and energy out to this nation, to all the protesters--even to those who disagree with us--so that this movement will lead us forward for the good of all.

I'll let you know how it goes!

My Spiritual Response to Gay Marriage

All this talk of protests and the accompanying emotions I've experienced have affected me in surprising ways. It's certainly tipped me off my usual center--but I don't know that it's a bad thing. However, I've had to consciously carve out moments to put those concerns aside and regain my wider perspective. I've been asking myself, how do I respond spiritually to this situation?

It isn't an easy answer since this path I'm on is new. In my former Christian life, I think my response would have been fairly simple: act in God's love. You may be thinking, "Well, just do the same now." Except I don't believe in any god being or deity or even necessarily in anything divine, so the phrase "God's love" comes up empty.

I've also been struggling with the fact that the politics of gay marriage and gay rights are illusions. It's only because I live in a democracy and have an expectation of equality in one form or another that this is even an issue. Elsewhere, it wouldn't even be a possibility. My sexuality doesn't define me; I am more and beyond that categorization. In other words, I believe it is possible to live fully as you are without any rights handed to you. It is possible to live by values that are timeless, even if others do not recognize you or those values. That assumes, of course, that people will leave you alone.

That rarely happens, and such is the case in this defining moment. Yet regardless of the outcome for gay marriage in this country, I still am and always will be. But I feel a need to act in this moment, in this world of here-and-now politics. The visible goal may be "marriage," but the larger frequency is love and respect.

I've been surprised at my anger, at my desire to lash out in some way at the oppressors. Is this right? Where do I draw the line? What's a thoughtful pagan to do? I'm really glad that I no longer need to see this situation through a Christian lens because it forces me to dig deeper. I don't have a special book or text to guide me, so I have to really uncover what values are most important to me and how I should walk in this physical world. The oppressors use Jesus and the Bible as weapons, but there are some on the side of gay rights who claim Jesus and the Bible say otherwise. To me, the one cancels out the other. We need something more, something deeper, something more essential.

Regardless of where we all stand on this issue of gay rights, the fact is that something has been sparked, an energy has been released, something has changed. This energy is rushing through each one of us, no matter what our opinions are. I'm hoping that this will be seen as the winds of progress, but that won't be true for everyone. This energy will make some afraid. It will overwhelm others and carry them away. Others may harness the energy and try to use it for their own ends. Is there a way to simply open our arms, feel its tug and pull, and listen quietly to what it has to say?

artwork by Mark Kashino

My Spiritual Response to Gay Marriage

All this talk of protests and the accompanying emotions I've experienced have affected me in surprising ways. It's certainly tipped me off my usual center--but I don't know that it's a bad thing. However, I've had to consciously carve out moments to put those concerns aside and regain my wider perspective. I've been asking myself, how do I respond spiritually to this situation?

It isn't an easy answer since this path I'm on is new. In my former Christian life, I think my response would have been fairly simple: act in God's love. You may be thinking, "Well, just do the same now." Except I don't believe in any god being or deity or even necessarily in anything divine, so the phrase "God's love" comes up empty.

I've also been struggling with the fact that the politics of gay marriage and gay rights are illusions. It's only because I live in a democracy and have an expectation of equality in one form or another that this is even an issue. Elsewhere, it wouldn't even be a possibility. My sexuality doesn't define me; I am more and beyond that categorization. In other words, I believe it is possible to live fully as you are without any rights handed to you. It is possible to live by values that are timeless, even if others do not recognize you or those values. That assumes, of course, that people will leave you alone.

That rarely happens, and such is the case in this defining moment. Yet regardless of the outcome for gay marriage in this country, I still am and always will be. But I feel a need to act in this moment, in this world of here-and-now politics. The visible goal may be "marriage," but the larger frequency is love and respect.

I've been surprised at my anger, at my desire to lash out in some way at the oppressors. Is this right? Where do I draw the line? What's a thoughtful pagan to do? I'm really glad that I no longer need to see this situation through a Christian lens because it forces me to dig deeper. I don't have a special book or text to guide me, so I have to really uncover what values are most important to me and how I should walk in this physical world. The oppressors use Jesus and the Bible as weapons, but there are some on the side of gay rights who claim Jesus and the Bible say otherwise. To me, the one cancels out the other. We need something more, something deeper, something more essential.

Regardless of where we all stand on this issue of gay rights, the fact is that something has been sparked, an energy has been released, something has changed. This energy is rushing through each one of us, no matter what our opinions are. I'm hoping that this will be seen as the winds of progress, but that won't be true for everyone. This energy will make some afraid. It will overwhelm others and carry them away. Others may harness the energy and try to use it for their own ends. Is there a way to simply open our arms, feel its tug and pull, and listen quietly to what it has to say?

artwork by Mark Kashino

Should Gays "Bash Back?"

Living as I do in the hinterlands, I'd never heard of Bash Back, a group formed just last year which is now getting national attention for disrupting services at a Michigan church over the weekend.

I guess you could call Bash Back a queer anarchist group, based on its philosophy and tactics. Some members disguised themselves and entered the church service to launch their "attack"--which included glitter, banners and generally mocking the congregation. Now, if you're a nice church lady, this would seem horrifying. But the trickster in me loves it. Glitter as a weapon--how fabulous!

Bash Back also criticizes the majority of gay activists, claiming they are only assimilating and denying their culture rather than celebrating it. The group also speaks out on capitalism and other nice, middle-American values.

What do you think? Does wearing a hot pink keffiyeh on your head cross the line?

I used to be such a straight-laced, nice young man, but the older I get, the more I appreciate the in-your-face confrontation of groups like Bash Back. It doesn't appear anything violent occurred at the Michigan church, and I wouldn't advocate violence. But I do think that sometimes you have to really break through society's illusions in order to drive a point home. Scare the muggles a bit, you know? Tossing in a little chaos might be just what the doctor ordered.

Should Gays "Bash Back?"

Living as I do in the hinterlands, I'd never heard of Bash Back, a group formed just last year which is now getting national attention for disrupting services at a Michigan church over the weekend.

I guess you could call Bash Back a queer anarchist group, based on its philosophy and tactics. Some members disguised themselves and entered the church service to launch their "attack"--which included glitter, banners and generally mocking the congregation. Now, if you're a nice church lady, this would seem horrifying. But the trickster in me loves it. Glitter as a weapon--how fabulous!

Bash Back also criticizes the majority of gay activists, claiming they are only assimilating and denying their culture rather than celebrating it. The group also speaks out on capitalism and other nice, middle-American values.

What do you think? Does wearing a hot pink keffiyeh on your head cross the line?

I used to be such a straight-laced, nice young man, but the older I get, the more I appreciate the in-your-face confrontation of groups like Bash Back. It doesn't appear anything violent occurred at the Michigan church, and I wouldn't advocate violence. But I do think that sometimes you have to really break through society's illusions in order to drive a point home. Scare the muggles a bit, you know? Tossing in a little chaos might be just what the doctor ordered.

At Least Gays Have Connecticut, Massachusetts

So yesterday, state-recognized gay weddings began in Connecticut. I guess I should be excited. And I am happy about it, but it's tempered with the reality that all this could be reversed at any time. Why get all invested then?

There are a lot of gay activists out there who admonish the rest of us to stay the course, stay calm and soon and very soon, gay marriage will be the law of the land. California is just a setback, they say. But it's the same old, same old. CT and MA could very well be setbacks if the right proposition gets on the ballot! What about all those states that already have anti-gay language written into their constitutions? Those have to be overturned, right? Yeah, piece of cake.

I'll rejoice with those CT couples rushing to the wedding chapel, but they'd better hold onto this wedded bliss for as long as they can. It could disappear in the blink of an eye.

At Least Gays Have Connecticut, Massachusetts

So yesterday, state-recognized gay weddings began in Connecticut. I guess I should be excited. And I am happy about it, but it's tempered with the reality that all this could be reversed at any time. Why get all invested then?

There are a lot of gay activists out there who admonish the rest of us to stay the course, stay calm and soon and very soon, gay marriage will be the law of the land. California is just a setback, they say. But it's the same old, same old. CT and MA could very well be setbacks if the right proposition gets on the ballot! What about all those states that already have anti-gay language written into their constitutions? Those have to be overturned, right? Yeah, piece of cake.

I'll rejoice with those CT couples rushing to the wedding chapel, but they'd better hold onto this wedded bliss for as long as they can. It could disappear in the blink of an eye.

"Coming Out 'Black'": Wanda Sykes talks Prop 8 to Ellen

This was shown before Prop 8 passed, so I guess it didn't reach the right people. But I wouldn't expect many anti-gay bigots to watch "Ellen" anyway.

Considering the number of minorities that voted in favor of Prop 8, Wanda Sykes delivers a great (and funny) message. Gays have faced discrimination that blacks have never had to face. "I never had to come out black!" says Wanda.

Thank goodness Wanda and Ellen are around to help us keep our sense of humor.

"Coming Out 'Black'": Wanda Sykes talks Prop 8 to Ellen

This was shown before Prop 8 passed, so I guess it didn't reach the right people. But I wouldn't expect many anti-gay bigots to watch "Ellen" anyway.

Considering the number of minorities that voted in favor of Prop 8, Wanda Sykes delivers a great (and funny) message. Gays have faced discrimination that blacks have never had to face. "I never had to come out black!" says Wanda.

Thank goodness Wanda and Ellen are around to help us keep our sense of humor.

Seeking Balance

Seeking Balance

Keith Olbermann on Prop 8 and Gay Marriage

"If you voted for this Proposition or support those who did or the sentiment they expressed, I have some questions, because, truly, I do not... understand. Why does this matter to you? What is it to you? In a time of impermanence and fly-by-night relationships, these people over here want the same chance at permanence and happiness that is your option. They don't want to deny you yours. They don't want to take anything away from you. They want what you want -- a chance to be a little less alone in the world."

MSNBC's Keith Olbermann says this and more in this short clip that nearly brought me to tears (via Towleroad). I am so close to this issue that it seems I cannot even articulate all my emotions and thoughts. I wish every knucklehead who voted for Prop 8 would be forced to listen to this clip over and over and over until they begged for mercy.

Keith Olbermann on Prop 8 and Gay Marriage

"If you voted for this Proposition or support those who did or the sentiment they expressed, I have some questions, because, truly, I do not... understand. Why does this matter to you? What is it to you? In a time of impermanence and fly-by-night relationships, these people over here want the same chance at permanence and happiness that is your option. They don't want to deny you yours. They don't want to take anything away from you. They want what you want -- a chance to be a little less alone in the world."

MSNBC's Keith Olbermann says this and more in this short clip that nearly brought me to tears (via Towleroad). I am so close to this issue that it seems I cannot even articulate all my emotions and thoughts. I wish every knucklehead who voted for Prop 8 would be forced to listen to this clip over and over and over until they begged for mercy.

How to REALLY Protect Marriage and Children

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How to REALLY Protect Marriage and Children

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Remains of Oldest Shaman Unearthed in Palestine/Israel

Archaeologists have found what appears to be the world's oldest grave of a shaman (actual site shown left). Located on the modern-day coast of Palestine/Israel, the grave contains the remains of a 12,000-year old female shaman believed to belong to the nomadic Natufian culture. Buried with her are select animal bones, a cowtail, an eagle wing, the foot of another human and around 50 tortoise shells--all carefully and elaborately arranged around her body.

The article states: "The discovery of a shaman this ancient offers a startling glimpse into this little-known past, a portrait of prehistoric ritual belief and of clear lines of social hierarchy taking shape."

I can't help but wonder what her life was like and how she helped her community.

Remains of Oldest Shaman Unearthed in Palestine/Israel

Archaeologists have found what appears to be the world's oldest grave of a shaman (actual site shown left). Located on the modern-day coast of Palestine/Israel, the grave contains the remains of a 12,000-year old female shaman believed to belong to the nomadic Natufian culture. Buried with her are select animal bones, a cowtail, an eagle wing, the foot of another human and around 50 tortoise shells--all carefully and elaborately arranged around her body.

The article states: "The discovery of a shaman this ancient offers a startling glimpse into this little-known past, a portrait of prehistoric ritual belief and of clear lines of social hierarchy taking shape."

I can't help but wonder what her life was like and how she helped her community.

Sacred Places: Road to Mayan Underworld Found!

This isn't breaking news, but an archaeologist in Mexico continues excavating sinkhole caves, or cenotes, in the Yucatan Peninsula, and he's found a series of caves that appear to be the real-world representation of Xibalba, the mythical Mayan underworld. Apparently, he keeps finding cool, creepy stuff!

This is pretty crazy--you descend into an underwater sinkhole and then, for whatever reason, crawl through darkness and human bones, around sharp stalactites and nasty critters like scorpions as part of some spiritual passage? Its purpose is unknown, but the series of caves and chambers faithfully depict the conditions Mayans would've expected upon reading about Xibalba in the Popol Vuh, a sacred text. Things like rivers of blood, bats and "knife chambers."

Some caves contain the ruins of underground temples and even a 100-yard paved road. Crazy.

Other similar sites have been discovered, and this site was also reported on back in August. The most recent report does a good job of explaining how the various caves depict specific conditions in Xibalba (stalactites for knives, for example), as well as Spanish efforts to wipe out the indigenous Mayan religion.

The last photo is of a beautifully lit cenote. I actually swam in one myself, but I can't imagine working to create such a dark vision as Xibalba--underground, in the darkness, the bugs--I'm starting to freak myself out! My swim was pretty tame--and well-lit.